by Michelle Garcia | Article Date: 07/27/2010 6:09 PM
The View's Elizabeth Hasselbeck says she knows why lesbians come out later in life: there are simply no available men.
Her theory is that older men tend to date younger women, "leaving older women with no one," she said.
"Being gay is not just holding hands and walking through the tulips," Joy Behar retorted. "I don't think you suddenly wake up one day and say, 'Oh, I wanted to do that.' You wanted to do it, but you were just trapped in a system that has just said, 'get married.'"
"We've done studies that women aren't
necessarily needing something sexual, they're
more needing something in terms of
companionship."
First, if I ever get to that
point, shoot me. Second, who are "we?" Is
Ms. Hasselbeck part of a compendium of super
secret sexual scientists, set to break wide
open why women choose to sleep with other
women, all the while desiring men who desire
other women? Conspiracy is afoot, dear
Watson, but rest assured Elisabeth Hasselbeck
is on the case.
It wouldn't be societies outright HATE of
Lesbians/Gays and our fears of being fired,
kicked out of our house/apartments, beaten
up, and ostracized would it?
Elizabeth Hasselbeck; the voice of wisdom and
rationality....LMFAO!!!
Tj,
Wednesday, July 28 2010 | 08:33:58
I agree with Joy. However, why are these
women always referred to as "late in
LESBIANS"? I'm sure a good proportion of them
are bisexual women not lesbians. Liz
obviously buys into the "fluidity" nonsense.
There is a whole bunch Elizabeth's at AE.
Has this poor woman ever lived in the real
world? Ever been exposed to anyone other
than the rich, Republican set that wants to
make and rule the world in their image? Is
she serious? She could have been joking...
40 year old lesbian who f*cks,
Thursday, July 29 2010 | 02:53:17
woooow
What a douche. If hordes of lonely 40 women
are looking for something other than a sexual
relationship, than how is that lesbian?
Female-female companionship in and of itself
is not lesbianism. Female-female f*king is.
Come on Elizabeth, you and your study group
need to get it together dear.
Elisabeth really annoys me the idiot, you
don't just choose to be a lesbian because a
decent man isn't available, I know that's not
why I'm gay, I love women, women are
beautiful and if you're a lesbian u are
emotionally and sexually attracted to a
woman, not just because there is a shortage
of men, alot of these "late in Life" lesbians
were just too scared to come out earlier as
society is very different today than it used
to be.
What EH said is what most straight people
think if you are a late in life lesbian
[LLL). I don't blame them I blame us for not
getting the message out for not supplying our
culture with information and examples of
women who have it all and are gay.
It's hard to fathom that someone would
actually believe that women coming out later
in life are doing so because there aren't
enough men their age. I'm sorry, but could
she really be that clueless?
Susan Gabriel
author of Seeking Sara Summers
[a novel
about falling in love with your best friend)
I find her disturbing--if in fact she speaks
from some cross section of women and that
means there are more like thinkers.
No
matter how I hope to think good thoughts and
rid my self of intolerance she and her
ignorant bitches need to board a bus and be
driven to a desert--
OMG! She IS retarded! I didn't realize I was
a lesbian until I was 40. And it was NOT
because I couldn't get a man because I was
married to one. LOL Jesus Christ, this is too
stupid to be real but it is.
OMG! Where did this woman come from?! I duno
whether to laugh or cry at her ignorance! I
accepted myself late, at 40... but definitely
not because of the lack of men!! How can that
ever be a reason?!
sickofphoney"lesbians",
Wednesday, August 4 2010 | 13:10:05
"I didn't realize I wasa lesbian until I was
40"Slow learner, huh? Honey, I think you
better stick to the "confused" or "bisexual"
label if you happily rode cock for that many
years!
Like Joy said, some women get caught up in
doing what they think they should be doing
[and some may not actually be happy), but if
you're gay you're gay. It will surface sooner
or later, but it's not a choice Liz.
Kaydee,
Friday, August 6 2010 | 21:09:45
@ Tj and sickofphoney"lesbians"
Does this kind of vitriol about women who
come out later in life really help progress
the rights of same sex attracted people to be
who they are? This kind of obsession with
labels and fitting into the right box from
within the gay community is not worse than
the sort of ignorance you are complaining
about from this woman. Sexual fluidity is a
reality. People's lives and partner choices
change. Labels are essentially meaningless
and are the source of much hatred when we
start thinking about 'them' and 'us'.
common sense,
Saturday, August 7 2010 | 09:20:29
"Sexual fluidity is areality."Yeah, riiight.
Well kaydeeeee, if you believe that, you
should have no problem with the word
bisexual! or calling yourself that! Those
LIL"lesbians" clearly swing both ways that is
a bisexual!
common sense,
Saturday, August 7 2010 | 09:25:34
Oh, and if you're so offended by labels
kaydeee, why do the LIL"Lesbians" insist on
calling themselves "lesbians" at all?
Alysa ,
Saturday, August 7 2010 | 16:30:31
Wow
I am an older full-on lesbian and I am really
shocked at some of the remarks here. There
are women of a certain age who grew up
without out celebrities like Melissa E.,
Ellen, KD etc... Who were taught to behave a
certain way and who sometimes masked their
true feelings with alcohol and drugs. It
wasn't always as easy to be gay. It went
against everything a girl was ever taught to
be. Some people have always recognized who
they were at younger ages and some tried to
conform for longer to their own detriment. By
Common Sense's def. people like Kelly
McGillis and Meredith Baxter aren't lesbians
bc they'e been married. So only gold star
lesbians are actual lesbians? That is such a
narrow-minded privileged pov. And I mean
privileged in the way that it is a privilege
in a way to know you are gay from the outset
and to not waver from that. I would love to
see more acceptance of all types of gay
women. If someone identifies as a lesbian and
she's slept with men, why should anyone else
question that? It just makes no sense to me.
People label themselves. That is their
privilege. Why create such vitriol amongst
ourselves? We have the religious right for
that!Okay...done with mini-rant.
Wow. I mean wow. I'm appalled to see some of
the words written here. I'm been back and
forth over the label thing for months. I'm
almost 40 and have been married/divorced and
dated men for my entire life. 5 years ago I
was shocked to find that I had fallen for a
dear friend who was "out". For a variety of
reasons it could not "happen" [we were
bi-coastal for one) and over time our paths
crossed in and out. I continued to date
men/she continued to date women. This past
year fate brought us back together and gave
us the opportunity to relocated to give this
a real shot. And this time I made a leap of
faith and followed my heart. We are in what I
can only describe as the best relationship of
my life [her too). So what am I? Bisexual?
It's ONE woman that turned my head and made
me stop in my tracks. New convert?? A failure
because I wasn't a "gold star" lesbian in my
earlier years? I'm NOT confused sick of phony
lesbians [nice name by the way you judgmental
thing)...I'm 100% certain this is where I'm
supposed to be. If the Universe works, I'm
not going back to the boy team. I chose not
to label. In fact fluid is the word I have
used when I describe sexuality.
As for
Hasselbeck, she's just plain unintelligent. I
didn't give up and go be with a woman because
I didn't have options. I had many options. I
chose a woman because the connection we have
is seamless...because she's amazing, we are
amazing together, because the sex is amazing,
because I feel like together we can go
anywhere.
common sense,
Tuesday, August 10 2010 | 12:01:34
"people like KellyMcGillis and Meredith
Baxter aren't lesbians"They're not. They're
bisexuals."If someone identifies as a lesbian
andshe's slept with men, why should anyone
elsequestion that?" How is that lesbian?
That is a classic bisexual! Why do bisexual
women fight so hard to be called lesbians
when they're not?? You women need to stop
lying and rationalizing and own it! If a guy
identified as straight and then proceeded to
occasionally fuck other men NO ONE would
consider him straight...because he isn't!
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