Exclusive: Welcome to 'The United States of God Des and She'

SheWired: So how are you guys feeling about the album?

God Des: We’re just really, really excited to put out something we’re so proud of. There’s so many different sounds, and styles, and topics that we cover on the record, so we’re just really excited for folks to hear it. We really feel like we pushed the envelope on this one.

Absolutely. I certainly I would never say that either of you have been soft-spoken, but this seems to be the most politically driven album you've released. Do you agree with that?

God Des: Yeah. I think for the first record we did, it was very outspoken as well, but it was...

She: In a different way.

God Des: It wasn’t as mature-sounding. We were just doing it because we loved it at that point, but haven’t really developed our sound yet. So we feel like this is great, because we really feel like we know what our sound is now, and it's so politically driven. Yeah, it's definitely the most outspoken [album].

So why do that type of album now? Especially given some of the electoral victories we saw in the last election?

She: We started writing this record a long time ago, actually. We’ve been working on it for a couple of years, so it's kind of interesting how it all kind of came to a head when there were victories and stuff. But for us, at the time we were writing, there was no victory. There was a lot of fear and we were very afraid Romney might be getting into office. And there still tons of things that are wrong — like the "Don't Say Gay" bill in Tennesee, or the fact that in California they can’t ban the gay "reparative therapy." Those things are really real and still exist.

God Des: And the fact that gay folks still can not marry in this country is insane. And until that day happens — even when that does happen —  there's still overcoming all the stereotypes. I mean, after segregation finished, there are still a lot of issues with racism. So it's going to take time and awareness and bringing visibility to issues, and we feel like it's our duty as musicians to do that. And so that’s what we did with this record. 

I think you succeeded at that. Some of your songs, like "Never Give Up," certainly seem to speak to LGBT youth, and kids who are being bullied. Did either of you have any experiences with being bullied, or taking crap for your orientation or your presentation?

God Des: I was always really different. I was such a tomboy when I was growing up. I went to this farm school in Michigan, in a small town with a big farming community. And people just were really really racist, and would say these things that I just didn’t understand. My family was very liberal, and musicians, so I was exposed to any type of person you can imagine — gay folks, every ethnicity and religion. So from an early age, I really hated it and didn’t understand why people were like that. [I remember] being a girl trying to compete with all these guys, and that initial stereotype of "I can't do it because I was a girl," made me feel injustice really early on. 

In high school I started to really dress a lot more feminine and grow my hair out. But then I was friends with the only black kid in my school, and I would get KKK letters in my locker, and people would say "white power" to me and threaten to kill him and really horrible stuff.

So it just opened my eyes to realize that the world is really cruel, and the older I got, as I got into college, I realized that a lot of it just came from ignorance — truly that people didn’t know gay folks, or they didn’t know people of color. In college, I really made it my duty to dialogue with people that were homophobic or whatever, and just try to open up their mind and change their perspective… Then that idea that they are really homophobic starts to dwindle, and it does the same with race, or religion. 

And She, how about you? Any experiences with bullying or harassment?

She: Oh god, I mean, I was called fat from a very early age. It’s so hard, especially when you’re in middle school and high school. I just kind of withdrew. I was a music-playing geek, and music was my escape and my salvation. I became the girl with the voice, instead of the fat girl — it was really a great transition for me, and I realized that my voice can kind of shield me from people saying mean things to me, or being cruel to me. 

You get so afraid of what anyone’s going to say, and I can't imagine growing up, just thinking about what it would be like as a kid today, where it's instant, and to everyone, and you don’t even have the guts to say it to somebody's face, or around somebody. That is terrifying to me. And probably one of the reasons for the gigantic lack of empathy, because it's so impersonal.

I’ve always been pretty feminine, and I really didn’t even come out until late in my life… If I’m honest, I’m a gay man inside. I wish I could marry a gay man, and live happily ever after, and decorate together…If I could magically make myself into a gay man, that’s what I would be. That’s what really I am. [Laughs] I’ve always been — I wouldn’t say a fag hag, but along those lines. I think that that’s where I’ve always felt the most comfortable. If I could really be a drag queen — I just found that Ana Matronic [of the Scissor Sisters] was. I didn’t know you could do that — I might have to try.

Like a cisgender drag queen?

She: Yeah! I didn’t know! I had no idea. And now that I know that, I’m like, oh my god, that might be something I have to look in to. Because I just love it, so hard. I mean, in real life, I’m like one step away from running from the ball and back. 

I think you’re probably not the only queer femme who feels like that.

She: See?!
I've been there too. I really I love show tunes, and I just feel like I should be a gay man, or marry a gay man — but they’re not interested in me. So it’s a catch-22.
She: I know! 

God Des: You guys are in a really hard place right there. 

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