The New Yorker cover illustrates a delightful image of two moms intently reading a thoughtful card their children wrote them while their three kids peek intently from behind the stairwell, gauging their reactions. This whimsical morning scene tugs at the heartstrings, but begs the question: how difficult was it for that imaginary New Yorker family to get to where they are?
Their humble abode seems fairly nice - lot’s of natural sunlight, two keys on the wall, large glass windows. However, lurking next under to the stairs is a cost that the majority of heterosexual couples dwell frequently on: the cost of parenting.
LGBT couples face a social, economic, and legal battlefield when embarking on their journey to have kids whether it is by conception, adoption, or prior relationships. A study from NerdWallet estimates that lesbian couples pay an average $5,000 more to become parents. What is deeply unnerving is that whatever “rights” or lack thereof that they gain from the extensive and expensive legal proceedings, can be imagined away at the drop of a homophobic hat. The cost of LGBT parenting goes beyond the courtroom, it spans a vast number of subtle costs that heterosexual couples do not need to worry about on a day-to-day basis.